Physical Symptoms – Stage 4
There is no getting around it. Bereavement will exhibit itself through physical symptoms in the body.
Following is a list of physical symptoms that you might experience: Sleeplessness and insomnia Wanting to sleep too much Feel physically drained Tightness of musclesBeing lethargic with no energy
Fidgety and unable to sit still Lose interest in work; house; physical appearance Neglect personal hygiene (don't brush teeth, take regular baths, or wash hair very often) Stay extremely busy so as not to have time to think Lack of interest in sex Sigh a lot Drink too much Take too many drugs No appetite Too much appetiteDigestive problems – “touchy stomach”Susceptible to illnesses Stress headachesOut of emotional control - feel good one minute; in the pits the next "Zombie Effect" Feelings shut down due to your body's natural coping mechanism Brain is scrambled; can't think clearly or remember things Cry continuously Can't cry -- bottle it up (it will come out years later) Talk about it over and over and dwell on it every moment Fantasize about the past Suffer from extreme loneliness Have lots of guilt about things you did or didn't do Engage in self-criticism Have a huge hole in your heart and soul Think you will never recover from your loss Suffer from severe depression See no reason to exist
We may not experience all of these things, but certainly all of us will experience some of them!
Our emotional grief can make us physically sick. This is very common.
If possible avoid the physical extremes of eating, exercising, or sleeping too much or too little.
There are things you can do to encourage Healthy Bereavement and ways to avoid Unhealthy Grief.
Balance is key. I once had a Bible study teacher who would say;
---“You can fall off the bridge on either side.”---
Since I am such a picture person this phrase was very helpful to me in all aspects of life.
Go to Stage 5 - Panicky about our Preoccupation
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