People don’t like to talk about anger and resentment in the same sentence with bereavement. We have this misguided notion that we are supposed to be serene and accepting. It might surprise us how strongly we can feel this emotion. But grieving is a messy process, not a tidy package.
When someone we love is wrenched away from us through death, it is only natural for us to go through this stage. It is a very human response that we shouldn’t be afraid of. Our rage or resentment can be directed any number of directions.
We can take our outrage to God, He is big enough to shoulder it. We can pour out our feelings to Him. King David cries out to God many times in the Psalms.
Much of society views emotional pain in a negative way. After just a short amount of time a person who is grieving feels the pressure to just “toughen up” and “get over it”. If we do not resist the urge to bury our emotions, we can expect it to show up sooner or later as physical symptoms.
There are things that we can do to help ourselves through this stage. Take time to talk about how you are feeling with a person who can listen without judging you.
Journaling is another good way to express your pain. Writing down how mad you are can help you release some of the emotion building up inside. In time it can and will start to fade.
Physical exercise can be very a helpful and healthy way to burn off some of your emotional energy. It can be as simple as going for a walk or as intense as training for a race.
Over time we will wrestle with and process through this stage. It may feel like it will never end, but it does.
Don’t try to walk through the grief process alone. Lean on friends, family, clergy, or counselors for help.
Anger should be admitted, expressed and let go of.
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Below are a few book suggestions you might find helpful.
Good Grief by Granger Westburg