Anger / Resentment – Stage 7

People don’t like to talk about anger and resentment in the same sentence with bereavement. We have this misguided notion that we are supposed to be serene and accepting. But grieving doesn’t work that way. It is a messy process, not a tidy package.

anger

When someone we love is wrenched away from us through death, it is only natural for us to feel fury. It is a very human response that we shouldn’t be afraid of. Our rage or resentment can be directed any number of directions.

Towards

Doctors
Nurses
Caregivers
Family members
The person who caused the accident
Even at God

We can take our outrage to God, He is big enough to shoulder it. We can pour out our feelings to Him.

lean on friends

Over time we will wrestle with and process through this stage. It may feel like it will never end, but it does.

Don’t try to walk through the grief process alone. Lean on friends, family, clergy, or counselors for help.

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